The Queer Life

The Queer Life – Extraordinary or Extraordinarily Weird?

Those of you who have read the “About Me” page already know that yes, I am gay, and yeah, my coming-out sucked. The Queer Life didn’t start as extraordinary for me as I had hoped – in fact, it extraordinarily sucked. I knew that I was gay the second my head popped out of my mother’s va-chi-chi; however, admitting that to myself and then to the world, that took me the better part of the first 20 years of my life. Also, for a huge deal of those two decades, I felt weird, misplaced and different from the rest. I wondered why me? Why am I like this? Why can’t I be “normal”? Was I Born this way? Is it in my genes? Did I become gay somehow? Here are some Facts and stories you may or may not already know about the Queer Life!Queer pride


Fun Facts About Lesbians (That We Wish Weren’t True!)
  • Popular queer joke: What does a lesbian bring to her second date? A U-Haul! Laugh all you want Girls but if you are queer, you know its true. Its not a myth. On the first date she moves into your bed, on the second date she moves into your place. Ouch!U Haul Truck
  • Even if you’re from Holland, and you meet a lesbian in Shanghai, she will have dated your ex’s ex. It’s lezzzbian law. It sucks. And its worse than Alice’s Chart on the L-Word!
  • Dating in the Queer World is like finding a new job – you have to either do it on the Internet or get referred. Ouch ouch!
  • You think lesbians are seperated into two groups? You’re right. Its not however “butch” and “femme”. Its Team Cat and Team Dog
  • There is a phenomenon called accidental queer twinning. After six month in a relationship you walk alike. After a year you dress alike. After 10 years you sound alike on the phone. And if you’re lucky, after a lifetime together you have the same intense orgasms!
  • Lesbian couples often menstruate at the same time of the month. Thats war. Thats double PMS. Hide. Fast.
  • People who ask “who is the man in your relationship?” don’t want to know who decides. They want to know who wears the strap-on
  • Lesbians with long nails ia a myth. After all, think of the moment when things get serious ….


Is Being A Lesbian Still A Crime?

There are in fact more than 70 countries in the world as of 2017 where being is illegal; a surprising number of countries still punish same-sex relationships with life in prisonment or even death.

LGBT rights have come a long way. Just a couple of years ago the US Supreme Court ruled same-sex marriage bans are unconstitutional; The Republic of Ireland became the first Country in the world to legalize same-sex marriage by the peoples’ popular vote and referendum. But – there are two sides to every medal. In a total of 74 countries, same-sex sexual contact is a criminal offence. In 13 of those countries, if caught, the participants are sentenced to death.  These are; Sudan, Iran, Saudi Arabia, Yemen, Mauritania, Afghanistan, Pakistan, Qatar, UAE, parts of Nigeria, parts of Somalia, parts of Syria and parts of Iraq. And a total of 40 countries retain a ‘gay panic’ clause which enables people to use as a defence for committing crimes such as assault or murder that they were provoked because the person was gay, lesbian or bisexual. Wake up and stand up sisters! There is a lot still to fight for!


The Most Tragic Lesbian Love Stories

Karen and Sharon

Just like a tragic movie, lesbian couple Karen Thompson and Sharon Kowalski were living a quiet life until Sharon was hit by a drunk driver and had an irreversible brain injury.

Sharon’s family refused to accept that she was a lesbian, and banned Karen from seeing or being with her. Because of this, Karen fought for their love by filing a case to become the guardian of Sharon. The battle lasted for over a decade.

In a milestone case known as the “Guardianship of Kowalski,” the Minnesota Court of Appeal ruled in favor of Karen. This led to more awareness of guardianship among same-sex couples

Aimée & JaguarAimée & Jaguar

Berlin 1943/44 Felice Schragenheim, an intelligent and courageous Jewish woman who lives under a false name, belongs to an underground organization. Lilly Wust, a devoted mother of four, though an occasional unfaithful wife, is desperate for love. Through unusual circumstances, those two women meet and against all odds, fall in love. An unusual and passionate love between them blossoms despite the danger of persecution and nightly bombing raids. They start writing love letters to one another and sign them with “Aimée” and “Jaguar”. Eventually, Felice confesses to Lilly that she is a Jew. The women swear to stay together and protect each other. Shortly after, the SS catches and imprisons Felice. Her trail gets lost after being transported to a concentration camp. 50 years later, with the help of a German author, Lilly writes a book about her one true love. In an interview on German TV she smiled with tears in her eyes and said: I can still feel her breath. A love that even death couldn’t undo. If you want to read their full Story (which is sure to touch you, leave you in tears and make you wish for you own soulmate) you can find the book here:

Aimée & Jaguar – A Love Stronger Than War & Death

or alternatively I can recommend the movie made based on this book with subtitles (and some hot scenes :-)). Find it at:

Aimée & Jaguar – The Movie